Updated: Sep 11, 2019
Dating apps are a great way to meet women whom you would generally not interact with in your daily life. It is free (to an extent), you have plenty of women to choose from and it can be used from the comfort of your home. However, like most things in life, there are some downsides. As a guy on a dating app, make no mistake: you have a lot of competition, and this works against you. A few months ago a female friend of mine downloaded Bumble and within one hour she had 50 matches. It would take most guys a few weeks or more to get that amount of matches. This is why it is best to use dating apps as a supplement to your regular ways of meeting women, not as a replacement. Think of it as the cherry on top of your dating life. An article by the New York Times titled, “ Tinder, the Fast-Growing Dating App, Taps an Age-Old Truth” states that while men swipe right 46% of the time, women only swipe right ( swiping right indicates she “likes” the man) 14% of the time. What can we conclude from this? First, women rarely swipe right. Second, men swipe right very often. Both do not work in your favor. This is why you need to ensure your profile stands out from the rest of the guys- so that you can be a part of the 14% whom she swipes right on.
Below are 6 tips you can use to create an awesome profile.
1.Your pictures are by far the most important aspect of your profile, so take this seriously. The pictures you post send signals to women about the type of relationship you are seeking. If your photos feature you with girls in bikinis, partying, or post shirtless selfies, she may conclude that you are looking for something casual. Alternately, if your photos include one in a suit at the office, the other of you on a hike, and another at a comedy show, she may assume you are seeking something more serious. This is a generalization, but the point is your photos send signals to women and you should be cognizant of the signals they send. Try tailoring your photos based on the type of relationship you are seeking.
2. Both with your pictures and your bio (if you choose to have one), do not show off or come across as try hard. Saying that you’re worth 3 million dollars, own a Maserati or are a Gucci model is a turn off. If any of this is true, congrats! Do not be ashamed of it, but let her find out more naturally and subtly, not in a way that she may conclude you are showing off. It also comes off as sleazy. It is best to demonstrate your attractive qualities rather than tell her. The former is hard to fake, the latter is not.
3. General guidelines with pictures: First, the no’s: selfies, mirror shots, pouty faces, shirtless, with many girls near you (try hard), filters, pics with a baby (girl: “is it his?”), guns/anything violent, racist, sexist, etc. Suppose you want to show off your body, an effective way to do so would be to have a photo in which you are wearing a fitted shirt or the sleeves of a button-down shirt are rolled up. The Yes’s: Smile ( a warm smile is 14% more likely to get more matches.), clear pictures, it should be obvious that it is you in the photo, at least one full body shot, and no sunglasses or anything that hides your face.
4. Bio: It is optional. You can have a lot of success without using the bio section. However, if you choose to write something, make sure it is short - no essays! Be brief, to the point, funny, and cute. Don’t be creepy, judgmental, sexist, sexual or etc.
5. Number of photos: This is tricky. It is best not to post too little nor too many. If you post too little she may think you have something to hide, but if you post too many you risk posting one that may turn her off. Consequently, the solution is to post 2 or 3 pictures.
6. The first Picture: It should be of you and not include anyone else. There should be no doubt in the girl’s mind that the person in the picture is you. A full body photo would be best.
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