Updated: Sep 11, 2019
Approach anxiety is a feeling that occurs when men get anxious or nervous around attractive women, particularly those whom they wish to approach and start a conversation with. This feeling is natural, normal, and happens to even the most experienced guys.
There are a few ways to deal with Approach Anxiety. First, remember that men and women are attracted to each other. This is natural and makes the world continue to exist. You would not be reading these words if your parents were not attracted to each other. Try to internalize this. Second, women WANT TO MEET ATTRACTIVE MEN, so do not think you are annoying or disturbing her. You need to really internalize and believe this. Women would love to meet a kind, intelligent, physically attractive, caring, confident, assertive and playful man - whether it is for something casual or romantic. Women spend hundreds, if not thousands of dollars a year trying to enhance their physical appearance for men: sexy clothing and shoes, tans, get their nails and hair done, go to the gym, shave their body hair, and some even resort to plastic surgery. Ask a single female friend of yours if this is true, most would definitely agree. Third, try to approach the woman within 5 seconds of seeing her, as it provides little time for you to talk yourself out of it. Fourth, practice, practice, practice. This is crucial. It is likely you experience Approach Anxiety because you lack confidence in yourself to talk to women. Once you improve and become more confident, you will experience less anxiety. Fifth, act like a President. When a President walks around in public, he shakes hands with the cashier, fist pumps the janitor, and jokes with the mailman. Talk to everyone, male and female, young and old, attractive and unattractive. This will improve your social skills, and the next time you see an attractive woman, you won’t be so anxious about approaching her. Sixth, although this may sound obvious, remember that women, like men, are human beings, so it is important to treat them that way. Women, just like you, have hopes, fears, dreams, insecurities, worry about how they will pay the bills, and have unsexy habits like farting and burping. So don’t put them on pedestals - treat them as equals.
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